Perhaps another way to think of Sufism is that it is industrial strength spiritual training. That means no one tells you what to do. You have a trainer (the Shaykh) who suggests and advises and counsels. The final arbiter is you: You are responsible for what you think, what you say, what you do. Sufism is adaptive, flexible and coherent. It is reasonable and moderate. It is not a religion. It is a way of helping you make better choices.